They Still Don’t Get It….
Believe it or not, I’m usually an optimist. I think the world is a good and beautiful place and that, despite some bumps in the road, we continue to positively evolve as a society towards an elevated sense of mutual respect and tolerance. But then something comes across my desk that makes me question the whole damn lot of us, makes me soberly contemplate whether we have actually made any significant strides in some areas over the last fifty years. That was the case earlier this week when I read about the chilling details of Stanford swimmer Brock Turner’s sexual assault on a young woman earlier this year. And all I could do was walk away shaking my head and thinking to myself, “Some people still just don’t get it.”
If you have not yet read the impact statement that the victim read at the sentencing hearing for this degenerate jerk bag, I highly recommend it. It has become a viral phenomenon on the internet as a stirring account from a woman brave enough to stand up and describe just how her existence was devastated by the ravaging impacts of sexual assault. She is courageous indeed because we still minimize sexual assault in a patriarchal world that follows the old boys club guidelines that shake off criminal misdoings of sexual perpetrators as the mere missteps of youth. “Oh come on,” they suggest with a lascivious air, “they’re just a kid that didn’t know any better.”
I know this might seem a bit too much of an exaggeration, except that this is sadly almost exactly representative of the comments uttered by the judge and Turner’s father, both of whom seemed utterly and tragically incognizant of the victim by the nature of their preposterously ignorant remarks. Despite a possible maximum sentence of fourteen years, Santa Clara County Judge Aaron Persky had the temerity to defend his sentence of just six short months in jail by suggesting “jail would have a severe impact on” Turner. Are you fucking kidding me? Six months? Really? Low level dope peddlers get more than that for selling dime bags to people who actually want their products. Do you really think the victim of this horrific crime wanted what Brock Turner was selling? But, you know, we have to be concerned with how this whole sentence thing might impact poor Brock…
Worse still were the comments of Brock’s father, Dan Turner, who, in pleading for a lenient sentence for his son, said to the court, “That is a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action out of his 20 plus years of life.” First of all, I sure as hell hope your kid wasn’t raping people during the first ten years of his life. With all due respect, sir, I don’t think that this is exactly the argument you want make to here. Second, did you really just use the phrase “20 minutes of action” for the crimes your son perpetrated? This woman had pine needles shoved up her crotch, for goodness sakes. At least now we know where your son gets his misguided, fucked up views on women, you disgusting creep.
It is seriously hard to believe that anyone could be this insensitive. What they are talking about here is a woman who had passed out at a party only to waken hours later in a hospital to discover that her underwear was missing and have to be informed that she had been vaginally penetrated against her will by pine needles and some kids’ gross little fingers. That’s what these insensitive assholes are referring to. But we really shoudn’t be all that surprised; their oblivious perspectives are unfortunately demonstrative of how our society continues to view the issue of sexual assault in the first place.
In fact, based on a technicality, prosecutors in the case had to drop the rape charge and go for a charge of sexual assault. In California, you see, rape is defined as someone using “physical force, intimidation, duress, or threats to persuade the victim to engage in sexual intercourse.” In the case of Turner’s rape of an unconscious woman, testimony determined that Turner penetrated his victim with a foreign object, not a sexual organ. Instead the three charges Turner was convicted of were “assault with intent to commit rape of an intoxicated woman, sexually penetrating an intoxicated person with a foreign object, and sexually penetrating an unconscious person with a foreign object.” Well, that makes me feel better.
If there is a silver lining to this story it comes in the triumphant deeds of the two bicyclists who were passing by the scene of the incident when they saw an intoxicated kid humping what was a clearly unconscious woman. Concerned for her safety, they called out to see if she needed help, and when she didn’t respond, they jumped into action. They tackled Brock Turner to the ground and held him there until the police could arrive and arrest him for raping the poor woman they saw crumpled up near the dumpster. In a world that otherwise seems staggeringly clueless about the subject, they, at least, knew a sexual assault when they saw one. They knew who the victim was and who was the perpetrator, and they knew enough to do everything they could to stop it, which is far more than I can say for Judge Aaron Persky.
Steven Craig is the author of the best-selling novel WAITING FOR TODAY, as well as numerous published poems, short stories, and dramatic works. Read his blog TRUTH: in 1000 Words or Less every TUESDAY and FRIDAY at www.waitingfortoday.com
No woman, drunk or not, would consent to sex behind a DUMPSTER in an alley as the perp suggests. Just another example of the privileged rich getting off scott-free.
Couldn’t agree more, Maureen. It is also indicative of a society that does not fully acknowledge the devastating impact of sexual assault.
No woman, drunk or not, would consent to sex behind a DUMPSTER in an alley as the perp suggests. Just another example of the privileged rich getting off scott-free.
Couldn’t agree more, Maureen. It is also indicative of a society that does not fully acknowledge the devastating impact of sexual assault.
I am incredibly incensed that people are concerned about Turner’s swimming scholarship, yet have no sympathy for this brave, young woman who was defiled.
This is not a new problem. Colleges all over the U.S. have brushed campus rapes under the rug for fear of diminished enrollment. And, as usual, a lot of them go unreported because the women are always being led to believe it is somehow their fault. The shame and guilt of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. FORCED sex is never OK.
Brock’s father is also the problem. I understand standing by your children, but clearly you have to, at some point, recognize that your star swimming athlete son did something horribly wrong. Painting the victim as some drunk whore will not change the fact that she was attacked in a most vicious, unconsenting, vile way. He knew exactly what he was doing. If not, then why did he run away when caught?
I welcome the day when women can begin to believe they are of equal footing to men. That we are not thought of as lesser human beings or disposable objects simply for men’s amusement. But sadly, not much progress has been made in this belief because poor behavior, even murder, is diminished depending on whether or not a championship or scholarship is at stake. And what kind of message is this sending to our youth? It’s okay. Don’t take responsibility for your actions. And even if you do, it will be glossed over because somehow your actions were justified.
Debra-
By making statements such as yours we continue to chip away at the reinforced structure that allows this to happen…
I am incredibly incensed that people are concerned about Turner’s swimming scholarship, yet have no sympathy for this brave, young woman who was defiled.
This is not a new problem. Colleges all over the U.S. have brushed campus rapes under the rug for fear of diminished enrollment. And, as usual, a lot of them go unreported because the women are always being led to believe it is somehow their fault. The shame and guilt of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. FORCED sex is never OK.
Brock’s father is also the problem. I understand standing by your children, but clearly you have to, at some point, recognize that your star swimming athlete son did something horribly wrong. Painting the victim as some drunk whore will not change the fact that she was attacked in a most vicious, unconsenting, vile way. He knew exactly what he was doing. If not, then why did he run away when caught?
I welcome the day when women can begin to believe they are of equal footing to men. That we are not thought of as lesser human beings or disposable objects simply for men’s amusement. But sadly, not much progress has been made in this belief because poor behavior, even murder, is diminished depending on whether or not a championship or scholarship is at stake. And what kind of message is this sending to our youth? It’s okay. Don’t take responsibility for your actions. And even if you do, it will be glossed over because somehow your actions were justified.
Debra-
By making statements such as yours we continue to chip away at the reinforced structure that allows this to happen…
I have thankfully Not come across any concern for this daddy’s monster. I can’t imagine the mind that would.
I have thankfully Not come across any concern for this daddy’s monster. I can’t imagine the mind that would.